How to determine how people treat you. The gestures of the interlocutor will help determine how the person treats you

New Year's gifts - a topic for a separate conversation. It is not for nothing that there are many articles and guides designed to help confused ordinary people in the selection and packaging of presents: in this seemingly simple matter, there are many nuances that must be taken into account if you do not want to be fooled and miscalculate with a gift.

The vast majority considers New Year's gifts a necessity or even commonplace and is completely unaware that even the most useless New Year's gift (for example, a trinket or a souvenir from a colleague or distant relatives) can do a good job.

In this article, we will tell you how to unravel the meaning of New Year's gifts: find out how to use holiday presents to determine how the person who gave them treats you.

Is it embarrassing to look a gift horse in the mouth?

Some time ago, the statement was popular, relevant and applicable: you don’t look a gift horse in the mouth. It is partly relevant today: in any case, you should not blame the donor for a gift you did not like. Any present should be accepted with respect and gratitude, even with a “duty” smile: these are elementary rules of courtesy.

But you definitely shouldn’t be ashamed to analyze what was donated: there is nothing seditious in this (especially if you were presented with something completely useless). The main thing is not to make caustic comments in the presence of the donor: this can offend or upset him.

We analyze the gift: find out how the giver treats you

We have dealt with the ethical side of the issue, and it's time to move on to a direct analysis of gifts. We will give some of the most popular categories and their “decoding”: you can rely on them if you have to analyze this or that present.

Small souvenirs: magnets, microscopic "dust collectors" and others like them

If you happened to receive a magnet or a ball filled with glycerin and artificial snow on such a holiday as the New Year, then the donor most likely did not consider it necessary to spend too much time on your gift.

But do not rush to get upset: this can either mean that you are not important for the donor, or that in the confusion the person simply forgot about your gift: such punctures happen from time to time even with those who always have a day off minute by minute in a special diary. Here you need to analyze a certain period: a person who constantly “pays off” with such a trifle, and one who only once presented you with such a thing, are two big differences. In addition, such a rule does not work even if you are seriously interested in collecting such trifles, and the donor knows about it: such attention to your hobby is rather commendable.

Obviously unnecessary things that were in use

There is not even anything to comment on here: the one who, even on holidays, manages to slip you “used” frying pans, tattered books and magazines, figurines, etc., obviously does not respect and appreciate you too much.

Perfume

Perfume is a rather personal thing, which is quite difficult to choose for another person (unless, of course, he dreams of a certain fragrance). And here there can be two options. The person who gives you perfume may know you and your preferences perfectly, or may simply use perfume as an opportunity to give something expensive and prestigious.

In the first case, you are incredibly lucky: most likely, on New Year's Eve you will receive a fragrance that suits you just perfect. But in the second, you should be wary: many give expensive gifts so that the one who receives them feels obligated or makes an appropriate present in return.

Money

Money is an ambiguous gift, and it all depends on your attitude to this, as well as on how others know about this attitude. Some consider money as a gift an unacceptable option - supposedly in this way the person giving the envelope shows his unwillingness to spend time choosing the right present. Others, on the contrary, believe that money is the best gift that is more useful than souvenirs and trifles.

In the article, we have given only approximate types of gifts and a decoding of their meanings: in reality, of course, there can be much more categories. In any case, you should not get hung up on what they give you: it may also happen that a person who treats you well simply does not know how to choose gifts and therefore constantly makes mistakes.

The constant thought of whether a person likes you or not can keep you in a lot of tension. Not every person can be read like an open book. Some people are very good at hiding their feelings. Of course, we all strive to avoid the pain associated with unrequited love. The situation can be aggravated by the fact that not everyone is able to see behind the words and actions of a person his true motives. For some, it is not difficult to determine what feelings a person has for them. For others, this is very difficult to do. However, observation can help answer an important question: do you like the person you like?

Steps

Watch body language

Make eye contact. Eye contact is one of the important components of body language. If you catch the eye of a person of the opposite sex, most likely he is interested in you. If a person maintains eye contact with you, it means they like you.

Pay attention to whether this person is smiling when looking at you. Like eye contact, a smile can tell a lot about your relationship with a person. Eye contact usually indicates interest, while a smile usually indicates that the person is attracted to you. Watch the person you like. Does he smile when he looks at you?

• Make eye contact with the person and see if they smile when they look into your eyes. If he smiles at you, this is a good sign that he has tender feelings for you.
• A shy person may experience great embarrassment in the presence of someone they like. Therefore, the absence of a smile does not always indicate an indifferent attitude towards you.

1. Pay attention to gentle touch. A light touch is often a form of flirting. The person may touch your arm or waist, or even hug you. Although friends often touch each other in the course of communication, if you notice that a person is embarrassed by touching you, most likely he has feelings for you.

   • Try lightly touching the person you like and watch their reaction. If you see embarrassment or a pleasant animation on his part, most likely he likes you.

2. See if the person tries to look their best in your presence. Body language is the main unconscious way to emphasize your attractiveness. Without realizing it, a person changes their body language, depending on the situation. If you happen to meet someone you like, watch their body language change. Thanks to this, you can understand whether there is interest on his part.

   Think about whether the person tries to stay close to you all the time, even if he has to change his plans for this. If a person likes you, he will have a natural desire to constantly be with you. Perhaps this person is doing his or her best to accompany you to work or school. You may also often meet him in a more informal setting, thinking that these are just casual meetings. This person can create such situations purposefully to be near you.

   Talk to the person you like

   1. Find an opportunity to talk about something personal. If you often communicate with this person, you can easily determine how he treats you. Conversation between people who like each other is usually very lively, compared to the calm, casual conversation between friends. You can discuss different topics: personal life, fears, painful experiences. Such topics affect people who like each other. Start a conversation about one of these topics and see how the person you like reacts to it. If this person is interested in discussing more personal topics, this may indicate that he is interested in you.

      flirt . If you want to build a relationship with someone who isn't openly interested in you, try flirting with them. Flirting is a behavior that attracts the attention of a potential partner. Flirting includes many types and forms. If you like a person, chances are you're already showing them your interest, even though you don't think about it yourself. You can smile at this person, try to establish and maintain (or break) eye contact, laugh, compliment and joke around him. It's all about flirting.

      • If the person you like responds to your flirting with similar actions, then most likely he cares about you.
      • Of course, if the person you like is the first to show that he is interested in talking to you, then most likely he likes you. Pay close attention to the person's behavior. If he gives you compliments about your appearance or charm, then most likely this person likes you.

   2. Try to joke and see the person's reaction. Humor is one of the most common ways in which a person can show their interest in a person of the opposite sex. If you like to joke around and are good at it, try joking around the person you like and watch their reaction. If a person likes you, he will have fun laughing at your jokes. In addition, a sense of humor is one of the most attractive qualities in a person. Even if the person you like wasn't paying attention to you, they might notice you if you're a fun conversationalist.

      Pay attention to how quickly the person you like replies to your messages. In the era of online communication, it is easy to understand how a person treats you. If he and you are both social media users or send emails to each other, watch how quickly this person replies to your messages. If this happens relatively quickly, such actions may be a good sign that he likes you. However, remember that a person can be very busy, so if he does not answer you right away, this does not at all mean that he is indifferent to you. Watch how quickly he replies to your messages and to the messages of others. Thanks to this, you will be able to understand whether this person is really busy or if he does not show interest in you.

      Ask directly. If you have tried all the methods, but still do not understand how the person you like feels about you, ask directly about his feelings. As a rule, if a person feels sympathy for someone, he shows it. Therefore, it is very rarely necessary to ask direct questions. However, if you are not willing to wait, ask the person how they feel about you.

      • It's not difficult at all. Just ask, “I think you like me. Tell me, is it so?
      • If the person you like is very shy, they may not answer your question directly. Therefore, do not start your conversation with this question. Better ask it in the middle of your conversation.

   Find out through friends

   1. Make sure that this person does not feel sympathy for someone else. Although a single person may show interest in several people of the opposite sex at once, find out if he is already trying to build a relationship with someone else. Find out this information from friends, or watch how he behaves towards members of the opposite sex.

   2. Get a friend's opinion. People tend to observe the behavior of other people. If your friend knows about your sympathy, ask him about what he thinks about this person, as well as about his attitude towards you. Even if you are very observant, the other person sees the situation from a different angle and can give you good advice.

      • A mutual friend is a great help if you have doubts. A friend can give their opinion on whether you are a good match for each other.

   3. Ask a friend if he heard something. If a person feels sympathy for someone, as a rule, in the company of friends, he talks about his feelings. If you want a more specific answer, but are not ready to talk about it with the person you like, ask your friends how he feels about you. In some cases, they may retell his words to you. In other cases, they can express their opinion. Thanks to this, you will get a general idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe attitude of this person towards you.

      • Note that friends may tell this person that you were interested in them. So if you want to keep your feelings private, don't rush to ask your friends questions.
      • As a rule, girls, compared to boys, are more likely to discuss their personal lives with their girlfriends. However, this advice applies to both girls and guys.

   4. Find out what his friends think of you. As a rule, friends listen to each other's opinions. If your friends speak well of you, then the person you like is likely to have a good opinion of you. Observe the behavior of your friends. If you see that they treat you well, then in all likelihood, the person you like also treats you. If your friends do not show much interest in you, then it can be assumed that the person you have sympathy for has similar feelings.

      • Do not directly ask a person how he treats you. Many people, out of politeness, will choose to lie so as not to hurt your feelings. Therefore, it is better to observe the behavior of people. See how they treat you. Do they want you to take part in a joint discussion of any issue? Do they listen to you when you say something and do they ask you questions? Of course, it's very hard to tell what people think of you once you've just met them. However, as a rule, you can get a general idea by observing the attitude of several friends towards you.

   5. Pay attention to how he treats you when you are with friends. As a rule, it is not difficult to notice how a person treats you. Of course, friendships can exist between a guy and a girl. However, watch how he treats you when you are with friends. If he wants to introduce you to his friends, chances are he sees you as a potential partner to build a relationship with.

      • If he's ignoring you when he's with friends, he's probably not interested in you. Although some people are not in a hurry to show their feelings for a person, being in a circle of friends, if this person likes you, he will treat you with respect.
      • If the person you like engages you in a conversation or some other activity and isn't shy about showing you feelings, chances are they're considering you as a potential partner.
   • Get ready for rejection. Even if it seems to you that a person is showing interest in you, it is difficult to say exactly how he feels about you. You can't be completely sure until you get hard evidence.

Body language is harder to control than speech. By some gestures of your interlocutor, you can understand whether he is interested in what you are saying or not.

In addition, we will talk about gestures that betray discontent, disappointment, disagreement or suspicion of deceit. These gestures should alert you, even if the interlocutor verbally says otherwise.

Covered eyelids or looking down

Eyelids closed while talking. A person either does not look at the interlocutor at all, or looks with his head thrown back. This subconscious gesture. It is an attempt to remove the interlocutor from the field of view, because he is tired or uninteresting. In combination with a head thrown back and a long look, it expresses superiority.

Head tilted down

This indicates a negative or judgmental attitude. Having noticed such a gesture from the interlocutor, you need to take measures so that his attitude changes. For example, change the subject or tone of the conversation.

Clasped fingers

Denotes disappointment and a person's desire to hide their negative attitude. In practice, this gesture manifests itself in three ways:

• fingers clasped and raised at face level, elbows rest on the table
• the brushes are linked and lie on the table
• clasped hands lie on their knees (if a person is sitting) or lowered down in front of him (if a person is standing)

The higher the interlocked hands are, the stronger the negative feeling, experienced by the interlocutor. So, it will be most difficult to negotiate with a person whose hands are raised at face level.

Rubbing the century

This gesture expresses a person's desire to hide from the information that he receives from the interlocutor. It usually occurs when the listener suspects the interlocutor of lying.

In practice, men tend to rub their eyelids in a very vigorous motion. Women delicately run their finger under the eye.

Ear scratching and rubbing

Says that the person no longer wants to listen to the interlocutor. Probably, he has already received all the necessary information and wants to speak in response. Or the information received is extremely unpleasant for him. In practice, it can manifest itself in various variations:

• ear rubbing
• earlobe stretching
• "drilling" in the ear with a fingertip

Neck scratching

Hidden expression of disagreement with the interlocutor. It is most clearly manifested when true sensations contradict verbal language.

For example, a person says: “I completely agree with you!”. If the statement is accompanied by this gesture, then in fact the person does not agree with the interlocutor.

Supporting the palm of the cheek and chin

This gesture means boredom, loss of interest in a conversation or performance. If your listener uses this gesture, something needs to be done urgently to regain their interest in the conversation. Change the subject, end the speech, captivate with some new aspects.

Supporting the cheek with fingers clenched into a fist. The index finger rests on the temple

Boredom they try to hide. Such a gesture is usually practiced by young managers at meetings that are not interesting to them. Since they are trying to hide from management the loss of interest in the topic. Or students, out of respect for the teacher, pretending to listen to a boring lecture.

Almost all people would like to determine the feelings that this or that person has for them. After all, even if you are often told something pleasant, given gifts or otherwise flattered, this does not always indicate the sincerity of a person’s feelings. And how to define them?

How to determine the feelings of a person when communicating

Unfortunately, no one can ever be completely sure of the sincerity and honesty of their partner. There are times when a person speaks to you in an even, pleasant voice, and everything seems to converge, everything is smooth, but somewhere deep inside, in the soul, a suspicion arises that something is wrong.

A cold, terrible thought creeps into your subconscious that you are being used, manipulated, or simply blatantly deceived. Are his feelings for you real, or will they fly off him like dry leaves at the first opportunity? How to determine the feelings of a person?

There are different opinions on this subject. Some people turn to astrology, divination and magic in order to clarify and determine the feelings of a person.

But to be completely sure as a result of such a check is not realistic, since 99% of psychics and sorcerers are just charlatans and extortionists. Therefore, it is best to try to independently determine the feelings of the people you are interested in, not necessarily asking anyone else about it.

To understand a person and determine the feelings of a person, you just need to be with him more, communicate, observe, relax with him. In this case, you can at any time catch signs of insincerity in his words and actions. Especially often they appear in unexpected stressful situations, or in cases where you need some kind of help.

If a person is really honest and sincere with you, you will understand this. You will see how he tries to help you, solve your problem, and in the end you will have to feel it internally, in your soul.

Since a really real, sincere person cannot cause any negative feelings, even after many years of communication. By listening to the advice, perhaps you will find the answer to the question: How to determine the feelings of a person? So let people live, help, love each other not for the sake of money, not for the sake of fame, but for the sake of pure, sincere, disinterested relationships.

How to determine the feelings of a person by gestures and facial expressions

Human feelings are like a closed book. Until you open it, nothing is clear and nothing is known. But a book can be taken and read in two or three days, and sometimes you try to understand and unravel human thoughts and feelings all your life. And even if they tell you that they love you, it is not yet a fact that this is sincerely said. After all, how many times a person has already been burned precisely because of such words.

What to do in such cases, how to determine the feelings of a person? For this, life invented facial expressions and gestures for us. They very often can reveal the true face of the human word. Now we will reveal to you the secrets of gestures and facial expressions that will help you in understanding truthfulness or lies.

Let's look at his smile. It is not always possible to understand by a smile when it is sincere, and when a person knows the psychology of communication well and uses it to seduce. It's all about the centuries. When a person truly smiles at you and talks about feelings, and at the same time the corners of the mouth and eyelids stretch at the same time, then this is true. Artificially, this will not work, since this all happens involuntarily;

It will help to determine the feelings of a person by his look. The veracity of his words and actions is produced by constantly looking eye to eye - you can be almost 99% sure that this is the case. Those who are trying to hide something from you are constantly trying to look away from you, especially to the left side;

Look also at the corners of the mouth. He talks about his passionate love and how he needs you, but at the same time, when he listens to you and one of the corners is raised, it means that everything he told you was a true lie. Better get away from him. When the corners of the mouth are down, and at the same time he tries to say that everything is fine and there is no need to worry - everything is exactly the same. Something he doesn't like;

Psychologists say that crossed arms on the chest is a sign of a closed person, and he does not want to communicate with you at all. So remember this gesture to determine the feelings of a person;

Signs of insecurity and timidity can be tested in this way. Invite someone you know to stick with you. And if after that your interlocutor says that now I will figure it out, but he himself is tense and licks his lips, then this is not true.

If you own all the knowledge of gestures and facial expressions, you will be able to determine the feelings of a person with great confidence and understand any person. And none of your friends will upset you anymore. The main thing is to clearly notice any gestures and analyze, and the lie will be revealed over time.

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The fact that a person likes you can be understood not only after the recognition “on the forehead”, but also by the unconscious behavior of the admirer.

website collected confessions of anonymous lovers from the Internet. This is what they think betrays the feelings of most people. What is most curious, people unconsciously behave in this way, regardless of gender and age.

• People of the first type always try to be closer to the object of their feelings: go to places where they can cross, try to stumble, as if by chance, touch at every opportunity (push a little, then, apologetically, hug, etc.).
• People of the second type, on the contrary, avoid the person they like, and when talking, they are rude, because it seems to them that the “victim” either guesses about their feelings, or now they are simply not good enough to appear before her. And if "object X" goes up, they will automatically go down.

So if someone has been shying away from you lately or, on the contrary, often accidentally intersects with you, know that all this is not without reason.

• The lover often looks at his object of adoration: he always seems to have missed some important detail. If this is unrequited love without a chance, then there will be even more views: it’s better that way than nothing.

  However, if a glance is intercepted, then often a “second front” is suddenly activated in a lover: for example, the nearest curtain requires immediate inspection or an unfamiliar grandmother in the next room is clearly eager to meet.

With conversations, there are also two options:

• In a person, the "alloy" of a poet, philosopher and journalist wakes up sharply; he talks on the most complex and interesting topics, even if he has never thought about them in his life. A bonus sometimes connects a kaveenshchik.
• An adequate and well-read person turns into a dumb sheep with a vocabulary, like a stool. If you are one of those people, try not to overdo it with trying to impress the interlocutor.

• People often talk about the person they like with others. or trying to bring the conversation to this topic. Even if they have a serious conversation with a group of colleagues, having heard the right name out of the corner of their ear, they will casually go over to a neighboring company.
• Interesting detail: a person can talk about the object of desire even very, very negatively, allegedly proving to himself and everyone around him that he doesn’t like him at all: “Masha is kind of strange ...”, “Come on, this Dima is such an idiot!”
• Or another way - emphasizing similarities in conversation, for example: “It seems that only Pasha and I are watching Game of Thrones.”

• When a person you like comes into view, the hero of the internal romance is likely to unconsciously smile, and when meeting, involuntarily raises eyebrows- from an overabundance of emotions.
• And when everyone in the company begins to laugh at someone's joke, lovers, without noticing it themselves, First of all, they look at the one they like.

• A person in love may suddenly become interested in the same things as the object of his feelings: abruptly begin to get involved in sports, read literature unusual for him, etc.

Oh yes, we almost forgot about the constant checks of the subject's page view counter on social networks and the unconscious hatred of all his close friends of the opposite sex. What can you do - love!

P.S.: Of course, there are exceptional people (however, as elsewhere), to convict of such behavior, no matter how hard you try, it will not work.